“There is nothing good or bad, but thinking makes it so....”
– William Shakespeare
Perfectionism Related Resources
Books
The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown
I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't) - The Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy and Power by Brene Brown
Overcoming Perfectionism by Ann Smith
Untamed by Glennon Doyle
Addiction to Perfection: The Still Unravished Bride: A Psychological Study (Studies in Jungian Psychology) by Marion Woodman
The Spirituality of Imperfection: Storytelling and the Search for Meaning by Ernest Kurtz and Katherine Ketcham
Podcasts
Stacie Cox is interviewed on Rise Up For You:
Episode #156 with Stacie Cox - Overcoming the Perfectionist Mindset
Videos
Dr. Brené Brown on Faking It, Perfectionism and Living Wholeheartedly | Super Soul Sunday | OWN:
Self Improvement/Shame/Vulnerability Related Resources
Books
Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience by Brent Brown
Braving the Wilderness by Brene Brown
Dare to Lead by Brene Brown
Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg
The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene Brown
The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive by Kristin Neff
Rising Strong: The Reckoning. The Rumble. The Revolution by Brene Brown
Letting Go of Shame by Ronald T. Potter-Efron
Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg
PostSecret: Extraordinary Confessions from Ordinary Lives by Frank Warren (www.postsecret.com)
Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff
Books
Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter A. Levine and Ann Frederick
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel VanDerKolk
In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness by Peter A. Levine
Baffled by Love: Stories of the Lasting Impact of Childhood Trauma Inflicted by Loved Ones by Laurie Kahn
Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A GUIDE AND MAP FOR RECOVERING FROM CHILDHOOD TRAUMA by Pete Walker
Overcoming Trauma and PTSD: A Workbook Integrating Skills from ACT, DBT, and CBT by Sheela Raja
The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals that Protect Us From Violence by Gavin de Becker
Books
In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Mate
Quitter: A Memoir of Drinking, Relapse, and Recovery by Erica Barnett
The Sober Truth by Lance Dodes, MD and Zachary Dodes
Quit Like a Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed with Alcohol by Holly Whitaker
Drink: The Intimate Relationship Between Women and Alcohol by Ann Dowsett Johnston
Apology to the Young Addict by James Brown
I Forgot To Die by Khalil Rafati
Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail by Cheryl Strayed
Blackout: Remembering the things I drank to forget by Sarah Hepola
Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction Paperback – January 6, 2009 by David Sheff
I’m Black and I’m Sober: The Timeless Journey of a Woman’s Journey Back to Sanity by Chaney Allen
Easy Way to Stop Smoking by Allen Carr
Letting Go of Self-Destructive Behaviors: A Workbook of Hope and Healing by Lisa Ferentz
Websites
StartYourRecovery.org is a free, confidential tool that helps individuals take steps toward a healthy relationship with drugs and alcohol. It was developed with the input of leading clinicians, experts from the White House and SAMHSA, and people in recovery themselves.
Alcohol and Drug Rehab Near Me Directory
Drug Treatment Center Finder: Their mission is to create and share informational content and resources that help anyone struggling with addiction find the help they need to live a fulfilling, sober lifestyle.
Comprehensive guides and tools for tobacco cessation
Other California Rehab Centers and Addiction Resources
Information and answers for people fighting addiction
http://www.withdrawal.net/resources/withdrawal/santa-monica-ca/
LOS ANGELES SPECIFIC TREATMENT CENTERS
SANTA MONICA TREATMENT CENTERS SPECIFICALLY
QUITZA The Social Quit Smoking AppA global gathering of people who are quitting smoking while supporting each other online.
Live Another Day - Extensive information on mental health and substance use resources for people of color. Their mission is equal access to life-saving resources. They have guides for black, Latinx, Asian, and native people.
Detox Local - A great resource with information on safely quitting drugs and alcohol. They have an extensive list of mental health and substance use resources specifically for the AAPI (American Asian and Pacific Islander) community.
www.parentgiving.com/elder-care/dependency-addiction-among-seniors/
https://www.arrowpassage.com/veteran-substance-abuse/
https://socalsunrise.com/alcohol-and-medication-interactions/
Videos
TED TALK - Addiction by Gabor Mate
Lessons from the Mental Hospital | Glennon Doyle Melton | TEDxTraverseCity
Chasing the Dragon
Social Dilemma
Unlovable
Apps
I Am Sober
NOMO
Podcasts
Adult Children of Alcoholics/Codependency Related Resources
Books
Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody
Codependent No More and Beyond Codependency by Melody Beattie
Codependent No More Workbook by Melody Beattie
Perfect Daughters: Adult Daughters of Alcoholics by Robert Ackerman
Unspoken Legacy: Addressing the Impact of Trauma and Addiction within the Family by Claudia Black
Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud
The Disease to Please: Curing the People Pleasing Syndrome by Harrie Braiker
Ready to Heal: Breaking Free of Addictive Relationships by Kelly McDaniel and Sarah Boggs
Loving Someone in Recovery by Beverly Berg
Videos
Stuart Saves the Family
Eating Disorder/Disordered Eating Related Resources
Books
Unbearable Lightness: A Story of Loss and Gain by Portia de Rossi
Overcoming Bulimia Workbook: Your Comprehensive, Step-by-Step Guide to Recovery by Randi McCabe, Tracy McFarlane and Marion Olmsted
Life Without Ed by Jenni Schaefer
Empty by Susan Burton
Goodbye Ed, Hello Me by Jenni Schaefer
Almost Anorexic by Jennifer J. Thomas, Ph.D. and Jenni Schaefer
Nice Girls Finish Fat: Put Yourself First and Change Your Eating Forever by Karen R. Koenig
The Broken Mirror: Understanding and Treating Body Dysmorphic Disorder by Katharine A Phillips
Do I Look Fat in This? by Rhonda Britten
When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies: Freeing Yourself from Food and Weight Obsession by Jane Hirschmann
Videos
The Lady Stripped Bare | Tracey Spicer | TEDxSouthBankWomen
Documentaries From Director Darryl Roberts
America The Beautiful 1 - Is America Obsessed with Beauty
America The Beautiful 2 - The Thin Commandments
America The Beautiful 3 - The Sexualization Of Our Youth
Websites
Dysfunctional Parent/Child Relationships & Personality Disorder Parents Related Resources
Books
Mothers Who Can’t Love: A Healing Guide For Daughters by Susan Forward
Toxic Parents by Susan Forward
Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers by Karyl McBride
Let There Be Light! Scapegoat of a Narcissistic Mother "My Story” by Lisa Duvall
Educated by Tara Westover
Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed by Wendy Behary
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parent by Lindsay Gibson
Why is it Always about You? The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism by Sandy Hotchkiss
“The quality of your life ultimately depends on the quality of your relationships.”
Grief Related Resources
Books
Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief by David Kessler
How to Survive the Loss of a Love by Peter McWilliams, Harold H. Bloomfield, Melba Colgrove
I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One by Pamela D. Blair and Brook Noel
Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss by Hope Edelman
The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion
The Long Goodbye: A Memoir by Meghan O’Rourke
Opening Our Hearts Transforming Our Losses by Al-anon Family Groups
Tear Soup: A Recipe for Healing After Loss by Pat Schwiebert , Chuck DeKlyen , Taylor Bills
“The Five Invitations,” a book by Frank OstaseskiMotherless Moms: How Losing a Mother Shapes the Parent You Become by Hope Edelman
How to Go on Living when Someone You Love Dies by Therese Rando
On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
On Grief & Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler
Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief: A Revolutionary Approach to Understanding and Healing the Impact of Loss by Claire Bidwell Smith
No Cure for Being Human by Kate Bowler
The Fall of Freddie the Leaf: A Story of Life for All Ages by Leo Buscaglia
Video
BJ Miller’s TED Talk “What Really Matters at the End of Life”
“Tomorrow is Promised to No One: What Death Can Teach Us About Love,” a talk by Dr. Jordana Jacobs
Websites
Sierra Campbell’s Nurture.Co resources:
"Til Death do us Part: An Exploration of the Relationship Between Love and Death" by Dr. Jordana Jacobs
“How to Live with Death” (BrainPickings.com)
Happiness/Life Purpose Related Resources
Books
Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor E Frankl
The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari by Robin Sharma
Enjoy Life Healing with Happiness by Lynn D. Johnson
What Happy People Know by Dan Baker
The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom by Jonathan Haidt
The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay Hendricks
Anxiety/Depression Reducing (Including Mindfulness) Related Resources
Books
The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer
The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Depression by Kirk Strosahl and Patricia Robinson
It's the Thought That Counts by David Hamilton
Addicted to the Monkey Mind: Change the Programming That Sabotages Your Life by J.F. Benoist
The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation & Tolerance by Matthew McKay, Jeffrey C. Wood, and Jeffrey Brantley
You Are the Placebo: Making Your Mind Matter by Joe Dispenza
The Voice of Knowledge: A Practical Guide to Inner Peace by Don Miguel Ruiz & Janet Mills
Calming Your Anxious Mind by Jeffrey Brantley
Be Calm: Proven Techniques to Stop Anxiety Now by Jill Weber
Retrain Your Brain: Cognitive Therapy by Seth Gillihan
Dare: The New Way to End Anxiety by Barry McDonagh
How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety by Ellen Hendriksen
Don’t Feed the Monkey Mind: How to Stop the Cycle of Anxiety, Fear and Worry by Jennifer Shannon
The Universe Has Your Back: Transform Fear to Faith by Gabrielle Bernstein
Websites
Life Coaching/Motivational Related Resources
Books
Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny! by Anthony Robbins
Unlimited Power: The New Science Of Personal Achievement by Anthony Robbins
You’re Best Life Yet: A Journey of Purpose and Passion by Marcia Ullett
Take Time for Your Life by Cheryl Richardson
Fearless Living by Rhonda Britten
It's Time, No One's Coming To Save You by Mary Goldenson
Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 10 Powerful Tools for Life and Work by Marilee G Adams
Relationship Improvement/Couples Related/Sex Related Resources
Books
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love by Amir Levi
Loving Bravely by Alexandra H. Solomon
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary D Chapman
Lessons of Lifelong Intimacy: Building a Stronger Marriage Without Losing Yourself—The 9 Principles of a Balanced and Happy Relationship by Michael Gurian
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It by Steven Stosny and Patricia Edd Love
Why Marriages Succeed and Fail by John Gottman
Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix
Everyone Communicates, Few Connect: What the Most Effective People Do Differently by John C. Maxwell
The Laws of Love by Chris Prentiss
101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married by Linda and Charlie Bloom
Sex Happens: The Gay Man's Guide to Creative Intimacy by Arlen Keith Leight
The Joy of Gay Sex: An Intimate Guide for Gay Men to the Pleasures of a Gay Lifestyle by Charles Silverstein and Edmund White
The Naked Truth About Men (and Romance) by Kathryn Foster
Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel
She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Ian Kerner
Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski Ph.D.
Not "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Shirley P. Glass
Getting Past the Affair by Snyder, Baucom, and Gordon
Mending a Shattered Heart: a Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts by Stefanie Carnes
Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts by Stefanie Carnes, Mari Lee, Anthony Rodriguez
Courageous Love: A Couples Guide To Conquering Betrayal (a workbook) by Stefanie Carnes
After the Affair, Third Edition: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Janis Abrahms Spring
Video
Podcasts & Blogs
The Key to Relationships, Trust, and Creating Love with Mark Groves
Relationship Goals with Kylie McBeath and Mark Groves
Dr Pat Allen On How To Speak Feminine To Be More Attractive
What Makes A Successful Relationship:
Imago Work With Harville Hendrix And Helen Hendrix
Practical Science Based Steps To Heal From An Affair by Gottman
Tools/Other Relationship Related Resources
36 QUESTIONS THAT LEAD TO LOVE
Sexual Orientation (Kinsey Scale) And Sexual Attraction (Purple/Red Scale)
On-Line Sex Quiz: Mojoupgrade.com
Cubid’s Closet: On-line Sex Store
Secret Desires: On-line Sex Store
Sexuality Related Resources
Books
Bent: Sexuality, Manhood, & Other Stories by J
RODE by J Adams
Queer Sex by Juno Roche
The Joy of Gay Sex: An Intimate Guide for Gay Men to the Pleasures of a Gay Lifestyle by Charles Silverstein and Edmund White
Detransition Baby by Torrey Peters
When We Rise: My Life in the Movement by Cleve Jones
Are There Closets in Heaven?; A Catholic Father and Lesbian Daughter Share their Story by Carol Curoe & Robert Curoe
Transgender History, second edition: The Roots of Today's Revolution by Susan Stryker
Videos
Danish Girl
Other Sexuality Based Resources
Sexual Orientation (Kinsey Scale) And Sexual Attraction (Purple/Red Scale)
Rainbow Depot- On Line Sex Store
Cubid’s Closet- On-line Sex Store
Secret Desires- On-line Sex Store
Books
Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood
Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman
The Fourth Trimester by Kimberly Ann Johnson
The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child by Nancy Newton Verrier
Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents: 7 Ways to Stop the Worry Cycle and Raise Courageous and Independent Children by Reid Wilson and Lynn Lyons
The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed by Jessica Lahey
Websites
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Videos
Parenting Related Resources
Equality Related Resources
Books
The Sun Does Shine by Anthony Ray Hinton
Stamped from the Beginning: The Definitive History of Racist Ideas in America by Ibram Kendi
Born a Crime: Stories from a South African Childhood by Trevor Noah
Men We Reaped: A Memoir by Jesmyn Ward
From the Crack House to the White House: Turning Obstacles into Opportunities by Denise Stokes
Videos
The Hate You Give
Just Mercy
Selma
Health and Wellness Related Resources
Books
The Courage to Thrive by Dr. Stephen Trudeau
Wellth: How I learned to Build a Life, Not a Resume by Jason Wachob
Rethink Food: 100+ Doctors Can't Be Wrong by Amy-Lee Goodman and Shushana Castle
When the Body Says No by Gabor Mate
Websites
Videos
What the Health
Game Changers
Vegucated
Discover the Healing Secrets of the Amazon Rainforest in The Sacred Science